Rick had the same issue. I found that 7283-6568-40 is the same connector with the addition of a CPA lock. I'm pretty sure Rick ordered it and confirmed it mates properly, but he can confirm.
Yes it fit perfect. I am still waiting for the pins for the Grey plug. I have been trying to get them for a couple of weeks. I finaly had to place a special order and pay alot more and purchase extra but I want to do this right. I will be happy to pass any extras along after I finish for what I payed. Assuming this works LOL. I am also still waiting for the pins for the plug under the dash that the harness for the heated wheel plugs into. They were supposed to be in stock but low and behold they weren't. I am trying to be patient and wait for all the correct connectors but they have been the hardest part of this conversion so far. The part numbers for the pins for the Grey plug are
7116-4721-02
7115-4720-02
You will need 9 wires going to the Grey plug 5 from the passenger seat 2 for the heated wheel and 2 for the CANbus.
There are two different part numbers because they are for different gages of wire but I ordered both just to try to get them.
00/RT has sorced all the part numbers for me. I am unable to look them up so he has been a great help
7114-4101-02 Is The part number for the male pin that goes to the plug under the dash the heated wheel wires would plug into. There are two of them.
The connector pins for the passenger seat have been easy to get Nexus has plenty in stock. There are two sizes but I don't have the part numbers handy. I will look them up from my packing slip when I get home if no one chimes in. I attached a picture of the plug under the dash that the heated wheel pins attach too. They enter from the right side but the opposite side is unpopulated.