Well spoke to the 2nd shop on the phone, they said they wouldn't be able to tell me whats wrong without tearing the motor apart and that it probably needs a replacement motor. Asked them about the intake manifold and he acted like I was stupid saying he dont even see how that would cause oil burning. The next step is the dodge dealer. They want $125 to find the problem and will deduct it from any work done. Guess I'm likely to go that route.
No offense, but most dealers aren't into it to fix problems on old vehicles like these. They want to look at it and nitpick every little problem then add them all into a huge problem that would be better to just buy another vehicle.
Not all dealers are like that, but the unfortunate truth is some exist. They won't lie, they will just bend the rules.
You can take it to the dealer, if you get a decent tech, they will find the real problem and fix it. But its still gonna be a lot more than if you did it yourself. If you're worried about doing it yourself, take a breather. There is only 2 steps where you can screw things up, removing the bolts, and cleaning the old gasket material off the heads. As long and you take things slow, and follow the advice of us guys on here, you'll be fine. All you need is a basic socket set and some screwdrivers. You'll be able to fix it for less than what the dealer charges to diagnose it.
But, to each their own. Don't let anyone tell you the engine is bad without some real good proof, like a hole in the side of the block. If you're unsure, just tell them that you want to do some research of your own to confirm and come talk to us. I'm not sure about IL, but in Michigan, by law, they cant hold your vehicle ransom, they cant force you into getting services, you must sign off on the paperwork before they can charge for anything (some states authorize a base diagnostic fee). I'm an auto tech now, before my current job I was a diesel tech, we have no problem with customers who want to verify what we are saying is true. Its not hurting us, we are just going to go park your car in a parking spot and move on to something else.