***ANOTHER UPDATE***
sorry for all the detail here, but hopefully it helps someone else
I drove to the autoparts store. its probably 2 miles away. the code came back on. Shudder came back. Additionally, I heard a tick that wasn't there before. Not sure if that had something to do with cylinder 1. On the way home it got way worse. really loud tick, almost no power, and vibrating like crazy.
I put the new coil and plugs in, cleared the codes, took it for a 10 mile drive and it feels like new. No new code, no shudder, gobs of power. I cant even remember the last time i have had the pedal to the floor, but it felt and sounded great. Hopefully we're all good.
I'm going to drive it for a few weeks. If all is well, I'll replace the other 7 coils and put all new plugs in. I also very recently did an oil change and still have the old oil. so ill be sending that into blackstone.
thanks again for everyone's help. Come 5 o'clock i know I'll be cracking a beer or two.