AS a courtesy here's a copy of the TurboDieselRegister's "authorized" Ram engineers' method of loading & unloading. They collected & published input of 2500 owners and then worked w/ Ram to figure it out.
From the TurboDieselRegister (begin quote) " Ram 2500 Rear Axle Air Suspension
The 2500 system is a rear axle only open air system which fully replaces the rear coil springs of the steel suspension. Ride comfort was enhanced though elimination of the traditional leaf springs on both air and steel suspension offerings. It offers two customer selectable right heights; “normal ride height” and “alternate trailer height”. The latter is intended to eliminate the rake angle of the truck for level towing. The same 3 modes available in the 1500 system (Tire Jack Mode; Transport Mode; and Wheel Alignment Mode) are also available on the 2500 system to modify the system’s behavior and are all intended for the same functions.
Auto Leveling – Time Delay
Like the 1500 system there is an added delay to give a “steel suspension like” behavior. However, with the additional load capacity of the 2500 system, a two stage strategy was developed. When lighter loads are applied the delay time is 10 seconds. Heavier loads will trigger a 20 second delay. Just like the 1500 truck, the engine should be left running when loading the vehicle if auto leveling is desired.
Key Off Strategy
Like the 1500 truck, the 2500 system will also make adjustments to maintain a target ride height after the ignition has been turned off. The air suspension system will stay active for 10 minutes after key off. However, the 2500 system will only lower during this time frame and the compressor is not allowed to run.
Door Open Strategy
Since the 2500 system is a rear axle only system, lowering of the suspension may occur while any door is open.
Trailer Hookup/Unhooking
The alternate trailer height may be used as a way to raise and lower the truck to minimize trailer jacking. The vehicle will always adjust to meet target ride height when using this feature as long as the air suspension system is not being overloaded. However, the following guidelines should be adhered to when hooking up and unhooking a trailer:
When using load distribution bars for conventional towing, select the height you plan to tow at (Ram recommends alternate trailer height) and then adjust load bars as needed (see "Hooking up a Trailer With a Weight Distributing Hitch").
When hooking up or unhooking a fifth wheel trailer, place the vehicle into Tire Jack Mode to prevent automatic height adjustments easing the ability to slide the kingpin out of the head without binding.
Never hook/unhook a trailer or place a load in the bed of the vehicle while it is in transport mode. Transport mode deflates the air bags to lowest safe level possible when selected and the air bags may be damaged by applying additional loads to the vehicle.
Hooking up a Trailer with a Weight Distributing Hitch (all trucks)
Set air suspension to normal ride height. No action is required if already in normal ride height. NOTE: The vehicle must remain in the engine running position while attaching a trailer for proper leveling of the air suspension system. NOTE: For Ram 2500/3500 trucks equipped with rear air suspension, normal ride height or alternate ride height can be used.
Position the truck to be ready to connect to the trailer (do not connect the trailer).
Under radio suspension settings, turn on jack mode. Jack mode will be canceled and procedure must be restarted if the vehicle is driven at speeds above 5mph (8kph).
Measure the height of the top of the front wheel opening on the fender to ground, this is height H1.
Attach the trailer to the vehicle without the weight distribution bars connected.
Measure the height of the top of the front wheel opening on the fender to ground, this is height H2.
Install and adjust the tension in the weight distributing bars so that the height of the front fender is approximately H2-H1)/3+H1 (about 1/3 the difference between H2 and H1 above normal ride height [H1]).
The truck can now be driven. Jack mode will be canceled when driven at speeds above 5mph (8kph).
Request for 2500 Input
Ram truck engineering wants your input on the delays implemented during the auto leveling strategy to provide the “steel suspension like” behavior. When replying please include the following information:
Length of time owning a Ram truck with the factory air suspension system
Typical usage in which you interact with the air suspension (type of trailer being hooked up/unhooked, type of loads going the bed, etc.)
Suggested delay time
Description of why does the delay time need to change or why should it stay the same
Note: This delay is in addition to the amount of time it takes the system to assess the change in height, actual response times to applied loads will vary." (end quote)