For me, the frustrating part is that I went into the dealership with towing on my mind, I knew I wanted, at least, a nice lightweight travel trailer, I also knew I would "like" to have a toy hauler, and I can't say for sure that salesman will deliberately deceive, but mine knew I towed an open trailer currently with my GMC Sierra, and also knew I was there because I chose the Ram for it's greater towing capabilities.
Having said that, they never once mentioned to me that if that is the case, I should choose the 3.92 gear range, that the 3.21 would be limiting.
Again, frustration, but also partly my own fault to blame, had I joined this forum 2 weeks earlier, I would have known all of this. Maybe the salesman really just didn't know.
With that being said, I cannot find any toy haulers, with at least one queen/double bed, and two flip down beds/couches for the kids, that fall into my GCWR that the 3.21's have, which is anywhere from 6900-7400 based on tongue weights.
I am going to get one anyways, and just not load it fully, and if I feel that tge gears will need changed, I will fork out the money, or better yet, use it as a down payment and just get a new truck with the 3.92's. It sucks to have to go through that.
I did however write and send a strongly worded letter to the dealership, and I am thinking of sending it to Dodge about this issue, to see if I can at least luck out and get the gearing updated.
So far, the leader is a Grey Wolf 21RR, dry hitch of 693 ( I used 1000 as a guide on the slider tool), 4337 dry weight, plus 2000 for quads, gear, etc, gets me to 6400 roughly.
I am hoping the 3.21's have no problem with 6400, which I feel they wont.