That's a great block of ranting, you might try using a bit more spaces for some of us older readers.
I'm sorry to hear that LED replacement bulbs didn't work very well for your truck.
I've heard other complaints from users with Quad housings.
The LEDs are spectacular in my truck with the projector housings.
More than 95% of my driving is rural and I've very rarely been flashed and never on a level road.
I chose specific Fahren bulbs based on excellent performance and fitment reviews from many other users with projector housings.
The cutoff line on these projector housings are quite sharp and defined. I marked the garage door with tape using the original halogen bulbs for reference and the Fahren are definitely below that same line at 3' or 25'.
Later on I changed the high beam bulbs from Fahren to non-clockable but more powerful Auxito bulbs.
And, although I'm not certain they have the same reach down the road as the Fahren, they certainly turn a dark country road into daylight all around my truck.
Lighting up the ditches and treeline is important to avoid the suicidal critters where I travel.
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