hotrod, you're a few years older but we're in the same boat as far as what we learned to drive (rwd) and what we learned to drive in(snow and icy roads)
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So.. a few general comments, not towards you specifically but some refer to your comments.. I always turn off traction control. When you NEED to put some power to the wheels having them slowing down can get you more stuck than not having TC. Drive into deep snow or some real mud and see what happens.. sometimes you gotta put the hammer down. Been there. Done that.
I virtually always drive in 4wd in icy conditions. A front wheel drive car can spin out pretty easily when you jump off the gas and the engine wants to slow the front wheels down. Been there, done that. 4wd will decelerate all wheels and lessen the chance of the rear end wanting to come around and visit the front end.
And use 4wd to get moving at a slick intersection or in the deep powdery crap that holds everyone back. Get the heck out of the way so the 16 cars behind you have a chance to get through the intersection too.
Its painful to keep hearing that 4wd doesn't help to stop.. okay, we know. But in a pickup, among other types of vehicles, 4wd definitely helps keep the truck straight and keep the rear from breaking loose on uphill grades. I can't count the dozens of times the rear tires have spun at higher highway speeds.. 40-70mph with the rear end loose will get your attention. Slow down? Sure. Not.
You also mentioned getting to know how your truck reacts in ice, in snow, etc. I constantly test the road so to speak so my driving does not exceed my or my vehicle's limitations. That doesn't mean I'm going so slow that I'll never lose traction. It means that given a clear path I'll be flying right along and given traffic I won't be compromised by someone else's mistakes, unless the other driver literally drives into me while we're sharing a roadway.
So.. learn the vehicle you're driving and its limitations, know your own limitations, learn the road and keep on top of conditions.
And lastly, there an No Absolutes. Use what works for you. Or just keep it in 4wd and TC engaged and rock on!
Oh, and don't let the air out of your tires. It absolutely does not work.