Ok, time for an update. I actually ordered a Reese hitch through Advance Auto, part number 33072. Now, the online Rep for Advance could not tell me the difference, or if it was for a truck made before or after 11/02. I ordered it with the understanding that if it did not fit I could return it via the local store. I got it today, un-boxed it, and did a test fit. NOW I can actually SEE why it won't fit. The depth is incorrect for one, it won't fit past the bumper bar to reach the mounting holes. even if it did, the holes do not line up on the bumper bar, and it looked like the holes would not line up on the step bumper.
So with more research and Advance Auto Parts Customer Service on the phone, I have ordered Reese hitch with part number 37084 which says "2002 - 2003 Dodge, Pickup, Ram 1500, (Built Before 11/2002)". I did get my refund on the previous hitch, less the shipping. After ordering the 37084, my cost is about $1 less then the other (I got a 30% discount, plus my $20 off coupon). Wait...the hitch is $117. I look at the order and I see the break down. The rep also, in a round about way, refunded my shipping. How? She also credited the shipping cost on this order. I'll give AAP kudo's on this one. Now we'll see if this one fits correctly. if not, I think my issue will be with Reese and not AAP. I'll keep ya updated.