I'd say a larger factor why the oil viscocity that was chosen for our trucks has less to do with the OEM's engineers decisions, as it does the government dictating oil for environmental considerations. Read through some ecodiesel bearing failure threads. 2016-2017, RAM lost 1/3 of the engines to bearing failure. This was a combination of the thin oil and the regen system, pumping exhaust particulate back into the intake cycle, which contaminated the thin oil. In 2017, they tried to recommend 5w-30 oil because the engines were lasting the way that they should, but the EPA blocked it. A different diesel-gate lawsuit started where Dodge had thousands of ecodiesels just sitting in lots until the lawsuit was settled, waiting to be sold.
There are plenty of examples of those that switched on there own to 5w-30 that took the engines to 300k miles. Many dealers during this span had to dictate on their service paperwork that the customer recommended 5w-30 oil for a change, after urging customers to use the thicker oil.
The hemi has different failures than the ecodiesel, but for similar reasons. If Dodge could do what was best for the engine without the government dictating things, I believe they would change the oil change interval and viscocity recommendations. I have engineer friends and I absolutely rely on their knowledge about many things. But, rarely do engineers make all of the decisions for companies anymore. The government and financial people frequently have more say than engineers, unfortunately.
I personally have relied on the experience of others on this forum. I have used either Pennzoil PUP, and more recently, valvoline extended performance 5w-30 since I bought the truck with 8k miles. I also use lubeguard, the big Purple Power filter, keep a 5k mile oil change interval, and I've had my idling RPM raised in the tune that I run.
I hope all of these preventative steps will enable me to keep this truck for a long time. I have a 7 year old boy that I'd like to hand it down to. So, I got a long way to go.