What I think you want to do, is de-pin the connector so you can remove the outer connector casing? If that's the case, you need a special tool that goes inside where the pins are, to push a tab on the pins that locks them into the connector housing, then gently pull them out through the wire end while at the same time applying pressure to the pin and tab using the tool. The other option (and this may work better and be less of a headache), would be to buy an after market 2-pin connector, cut the old ones off on both sides (the male end and the female end), and put the new ones on in their place. Anything after market will probably not be a match to the factory connector - which is why you have to do both sides. Anything will work from any of the big auto stores as long as it's small and a two pin connector. While you might want to consider staying stock, this simple type of wiring repair done right, won't affect performance or resale at all. One thing I will say: If you go with the aftermarket, make sure you get a GOOD crimper for the pins. That might set you back about $50 or so. You can also just buy a connector kit - there's usually about 50 different connectors (pin count wise) - including 1-pin, 2-pin, 3-pin, etc, and they usually come with the crimper too... Might come in handy for other auto or boat wiring (if you have one of those money-suckers) down the road (or really, any sort of powered device that uses pretty much automotive type wiring - just don't use it on your house wiring! Just some suggestions/thoughts.