If you are considering a Wrangler as well, you really don't have a need for a truck and can probably do much better with a heavy duty SUV like an Armada or a Sequoia or an Expedition, something like that. It sounds like you need towing capacity, 4WD and room for 4 kids. That's really a full size heavy duty SUV. You can get a 4th kid in the jumper seat up front but it will suck. Why do it when the kids can have 4 comfortable seats for themselves?
I don't need a ton of towing capacity, but the integrated brake controllers are so nice that I have used, I would much rather have one if possible. Besides, quite a few things have changed in the 15 years since I purchased the Avalanche this would replace. I expect plenty more will change before this vehicle is shot. 4 kids and 3 moves have happened since the last truck was purchased. So has the purchase and sale of a 10k enclosed car hauler. I'll spend a couple of bucks now to protect for that possibility in the future.
I use the bed of my current Avalanche more than I use the 6th seat. We generally take the Minivan for family outings, but occasionally we need everyone in a 4x4. The Wrangler is in consideration at all because I liked my last one and they claim a stick is still an option. The Wrangler would also be quite a bit cheaper than the other options with a stick and a soft top. I have no confidence that a GC would be roomy enough for me, The Durango is marginal at best. Besides, it is the current deals and looming explosive inflation that have me moving up my purchase plans. I was planning 2 more years if I could limp the current ride that long.
Nissan is not an option. The nearest dealer is too far away. I was at one time considering an Electric Leaf, but the range wouldn't get it home from the nearest dealer. Seeing what MI did to electric vehicle registration to keep Tesla out, makes me glad I skipped buying one.
Toyota is not an option as the local dealer has outright lied to me when shopping previously. I'll not do business with someone that has proven to be untrustworthy if I can at all help it.
The local Ford dealer just likes to ignore me or quickly brush me off when ever I have gone there looking for a vehicle. The last time there I ended up with a minor injury because they couldn't be bothered to keep their lot clear of ice, nor could they be bothered to see if I was well after the fall. That was their last chance with me for this sale. Too bad too; I like Ford products, but I also buy a new vehicle local so I get decent service after the sale without a long drive.
The new Chevy is just ugly.
The local GMC dealer screwed me in the past.
I guess I am limited to Chevy and FCA based on the local dealers. Looks like I might get a family discount on FCA as well.