it's not just you, and it's not just dodge/ram...
when i bought my rebel, spent about a year researching the next truck. going down rabit holes, watched a lot of "uboxing" videos including several by professional detailers. a consistent theme was "paint from the dealer sucks" and accepting spending a lot of time doing off-the-lot conditioning as the norm. this spanned the "big three" manufacturers, anyone with a critical eye could easily find paint defects on new vehicles which my father would never have accepted.
my rebel was not much different... i looked at a handful including a few power wagons (nice to dream ;-) ) in various states and all of them had serious scratches, swirl marks or other damage. i know the car duster / dirty sponge / hard brush crap they pay teenage interns to go over everything with doesn't help -- but that's always been the case with dealer car washes, the damage has just increased exponentially over the years.
several years ago i had some paint work done at a local shop that has a good reputation and does high end restoration. i've seen a lot of their work and been impressed. the main guy there told me anything he did at the time was better than dealer because the EPA had hit big manufactuers first with regulations that kept them from using a lot of ingredients which made harder paint. smaller businesses were exempt longer, but eventually would have to comply. as a paint professional, his story was that it's not manufactuers doing shoddy work but more about regulation overhead preventing them from using products which will stand the test of time.
after all the looking i was able to find a truck in decent condition -- nothing glaring on the lot, but when i went over things in my garage with a swirl finder there were the usual cobwebs and a few deeper scratches i missed in natural light. i went over it with a two step compound/polish and then ceramic coated (prep/condition/coat was ~13 hours for me). it made a huge difference, but the main thing i noticed was how little effort it took to take down the clear! while the cermaic does a great job at preventing water spots, i view it as "long lived wax" vs something new -- it keeps me from having to reapply multiple times a year, which is a huge benefit, but does not prevent most forms of paint damage. the paint is still so soft that even getting hit by "hard bugs" seems to leave nicks here and there on the hood. what prevents the most damage is hand washing yourself!
overall i'm happy with the truck...looks great, super comfortable and is a lot of fun. sadly, i think softer paint, thinner almuinum, glitchier electronics... these are par for the course in the modern world, regardless of brand, color, vehicle type, etc. i guess anyone that is OCD just has to accept frequent reconditioning.