I would say either will do you fine. I went with the 4.56 & stock tires. At 70mph I am right at 2,000 rpm's. My trailer is 13,500 all loaded up & the re-gear made a great difference in how it pulled & frankly drove as a daily driver. If I didn't average 16-17,000 miles a year I think I would have went ahead & went with the 4.88's.
Question Sir....If you use two haul, does it lock out 6th gear? If it does, what rpm are you turning at 65 which is the max I do when towing.
2k rpm isn't bad at 70 as I rarely exceed 75 even on the highway.
My 17 just turned 14,500 miles this weekend, so I'm considering committing to keeping it for a long time...and maybe try to keep it another 13 yrs.and then going to a 3500 before I retire.
Its garaged and not driven in the snow and with my OCD maintenance, still looks new.
If I do, I will seriously consider a regear. Thanks