Hello all! Again, I want to thank you all for helping and advising.
Yes- the dealership is over 3 hours away.
The only update I have is I called three more times today and left some messages with the manager of the title department and the used car department manager. I doubt the gm came in on a Saturday. I'll most likely wait until Monday before I have a phone call with the bank and forward all other calls to my attorneys (yes, two, who are husband and wife).
Redd,
Please keep in mind here that the dealer is indeed in trouble and they know it. The reason they're not getting back to you as fast as you want is probably because they're consulting with their own legal counsel to explain to them exactly what their liability is in this case. They certainly don't want to make a bad situation worse for themselves by saying or doing anything incorrectly and will probably wait until they understand the legalities fully before they finally contact you for a settlement.
This is also probably why they didn't tell you right up front. They have to be very careful. They sold you a truck they didn't even own, albeit it innocently. Without clear title, the truck is actually still the legal property of the husband and wife since the title cannot be transferred to the dealer or to you without her consent. The husband is potentially in both criminal and civil legal trouble. He basically sold the dealer the equivalent of a stolen vehicle. If the dealer presses charges, he could possibly face jail time and if you and/or the dealer decide to sue him, he could be in civil jeopardy as well.
But you need to be careful too. Please take the time to create the paper trail. This will secure your position with documentation you can take to court if necessary and will put the maximum pressure on the dealer to settle quickly and to your satisfaction. You want to settle quickly because you basically purchased the equivalent of a stolen vehicle that you now do not own. Now of course this is not your fault, but the law usually states that if you purchase anything that was stolen or illegally sold, even if innocently, you simply do not own it. This is especially true in this case because vehicles are titled. Without a clear title to the truck, it's not yours. You can't permanently register it, and without a registration, you can't drive it. And you certainly can't sell it.
So, it's in your best interest to get all of your money back asap from the dealer before you get dragged into this any further. You can then repurchase the truck if the dealer ever properly gets the title. But for now, you paid a lot of money for something you cannot legally own and you should concentrate on getting your money back and not worry so much about keeping the truck. That's not up to you, or the dealer. That's entirely up to the wife and you don't want to be caught up in any way with her while she's going through a divorce. Just get all of your money back right now and worry about the truck later.
Consult with your attorneys about this and the possibility of getting more from the dealer. Have them contact the dealer in writing and demand all of your money back immediately. If you then want to try to get more from the dealer for your obvious inconvenience and trouble, feel free to do so, but the most important thing right now is not to get dragged into someone else's divorce and to get all of your money back asap.