I haven't gotten the Hellwig sway bar yet, but the truck drives great now, I took it to a front end place (its all they do) where the guys working on them can do it blindfolded and have been at it for around 50 years.
The whole front end was off, the
AZZholes 
who did the lift never bothered to trim the 5/8" from the end of the male thread on the tie rod end. The front end shop fixed that, then I had them check every front end bolt, most were loose, the lower control arms at the drop bracket were just over hand tight. I don't know how some places stay in business.
But a big thanks to everyone who chimed in with advise, it really is appreciated.