Man, you guys are all over the map with this.
#1, suspect a dirty throttle body because for one the tuning in the powertrain "brain" is extremely sensitive to air flow numbers. Normally the idle air valve correct this to maintain a good idle but if things gets gummed up it can't react fast enough and you get intermittent stalls. USUALLY the OBDII detects reduced air flow and throws a code. Because of the ventless PCV system on modern vehicles it is very common for the TB and intake tract to get gummy.
I've had this exact issue on older vehicles with the Hemi. The throttle body isn't hard to remove. 4 bolts hold it to the plastic intake manifold. Unplug connectors, and remove it. CAN clean of TB cleaner (not carb cleaner) and a tooth brush. Spray the cleaner on the gummy areas and scrub it with the tooth brush. Be sure to clean out the air idle bypass passage also.
Why can't you use carb cleaner? It is too aggressive. A Throttle Body has a special coating to prevent corrosion.