I'm not going to argue that a properly designed header will outlive a properly designed exhaust manifold. But there are sooo many cheapie headers on the market that IMO they get a bad rap. A properly designed 3/8" or better flange, 304 (or better) stainless, tig welded on a jig header should have a very long shelf life. Especially in a non-turbo application. My point on the Mustang is simply that they have been using headers since 2011 and I have never read about a broken exhaust manifold bolt due to warpage/expansion. Yes, I'm sure there is someone, somewhere that would say otherwise. But I don't think it's ever been an issue.
OEM's use cast manifolds because they are cheap and reliable. In the case of the Ram manifold, it may have been more cheap than reliable. IMO anyway.