Well what can you really do if you aren't taking it to a mechanic?
Well, I feel for ya, if you do nothing your transmission wont last much longer. If it were me I would take it to a transmission shop and ask their opinion, they can test pressure at the line and see if that is an issue. They likely will have info on common and easy fixes as well. Even if you drop a couple hundred, it will be cheaper then leaving it at that temp.
Options w/o taking it to a trans shop-
lower exhaust pipes from pan, or at least check that as a source
drop pan options
Change to ester fluid and both filters
new valve body- mise well upgrade sharadon or similar
change solenoid
add after market transmission cooler- but if your tc or solenoid is failing this likely wont help.
dunno just brainstorming.... I'd likely drop a couple hundred at a tranny shop. My 2010 religiously operates at 136F even when towing my landscape trailer. I would be ok with it as high as 220F, but at those temps I would either go to shop or start doing **** to see if I could get t down. And I would pay attention every day to the temps. Good luck brother, Burla