Haas,
personally my friend, i think your worrying far more than you really should be. Many people in here have had very good luck with their hemi trucks, and stands to reason why they buy another one when they trade up. Maybe you should visit some of the chevy & ford forums, and absorb all the problems those two brands have. It might cheer you up to know that the hemi trucks are a very fine truck. And again, another TRUCK OF THE YEAR award.
I`ve owned more hemi`s than most average people would, normally, and with 80+ thousand miles on ALL mine before trading them in, in my own opinion, speaks volumes for the hemi engines i`ve owned and have never broke anything. I have YET to have any exhaust bolts break, and surely never ever had cam an lifter issues in any hemi i`ve owned since 2003, and i put ALOTTA miles on my trucks. Use a good oil and filter, dont beat the truck, shouldn`t have any problems. I think alot of problems are exaggerated more than they really actually are. Thank the internet for that. If you look at how many hemi`s have been sold, against how many problems they`ve had throughout the generations, its not even worth worrying about it, in my own personal opinion.
Just my own thoughts on the cam/lifter failure... pick an oil that has a good amount of zinc in it, cam/lifters will work just fine and last plenty long enough. I`ve used pennzoil for a few years, not a single engine failure to date, or even any kind of severe wear to speak of. Call it luck...?... could be, i dont know. But it must be working good for me, because i`ve had ZERO cam & lifter failures. Do they break, sure they do, ALL of them do, at some point. Its how you take care or them is what really matters. Change the oil and filter often, don`t beat the truck/car/horse, the hemi will last a long time.
The only thing i have trouble with, are the lame dealerships out there... but they are all a pain in the ass when they cant fix`em, no matter what badge is in the grill.