You probably jumped 30-86. 30 should be your constant hot, and 86 (or 85) should be your ground on the coil circuit.
Do you have a meter? 85 or 86 should be grounded, and the other should see +12 volts when the key is on.
Im betting you melted a ground as the wire to terminal 30 should be more robust than the wires to pin 85 and 86.
How to test- with the key off, and the meter set to ohms, find a good chassis ground and probe pins 85-86. One should take the meter off OL (OL means its open. it means theres infinite ohms of resistance and theres no continuity) It should go to ~0.0.
If there is no good ground, you still need to find which terminal is power to the coil circuit and it should be the switched side. set the meter to DC volts (the symbol is a solid line with a dashed line under it) and reprobe pins 85-86. One of these SHOULD have power. The other will be your ground.
If there is continuity to ground but NO voltage, it is sadly probably your tipm. If everything else works, you can wire up something to run the fuel pump without replacing the tipm.
If there is NO ground but voltage to the other leg, the quick and dirty way to get you back on the road is to stick a piece of wire in the terminal on the fuse box that should be ground, stuff the relay in, and ground the other side of that wire.
Lots of stuff i left out. I dont intend to come off like i think youre an idiot. I just dont check here often and had a few minutes.
And 87a is the normally closed pin on the relay. If you look at your fuse box, its the hole without a pin in it.