OP I feel your pain, but know that this isn't just a Ram problem. In my experience I have gone from despising Ram trucks (my 1997 was horrific) to it being the only truck I'll own despite a few shortcomings.
This might not help much, but maybe it will give you some relief knowing you aren't alone.
I once owned a 2008 F250 with the 6.4 Powerstroke. At 32k miles, the high pressure fuel pump ate itself and sent shrapnel through the entire fuel system. The whole fuel system (minus the tank) had to be replaced. It took 7 months to get it fixed. At 54k miles it popped the head gaskets. The dealership allowed me to have them delete the truck. They covered the labor under warranty and I provided the parts. Sadly, they didn't deck the heads and at 118k miles it popped the head gaskets again while towing and warped the block. I had to dump the truck. <-- This is when I switched to Ram, to get the Cummins.
In 2014 I bought my wife a Toyota Venza Limited. That car cost us $48k. At 10k miles the panoramic roof exploded and collapsed into the car while she was taking a roundabout to work. Toyota dealer replaced it with no issue. At 14k miles, the roof would make popping noises going over train tracks or off kilter driveways. Once it split the windshield up the middle. Toyota denied the claim but the dealer told me they knew there was no structure in the roof and that the chassis flexed too much. At ~26k miles the seat back welds broke and dumped my wife while she was traveling down the interstate. Toyota declined to send an engineer to look at it and denied repairing it (my wife is small). We dumped the car at 33k miles and took a $12k loss on it.
In June 2022, our 2019 Ford Expedition transmission start jumping out of gear. Ford determined that it needed a full rebuild. While it was on the rack they redesigned the internal components 3 times before we could even get put on the list for the replacement parts! We had to wait until December 17th to get the parts from the manufacturer. They rebuilt it and we went on our way. After going 88 miles, the trans puked all the fluid out and burnt up a second time. We sold it to the dealership and walked away from it. I wrote them a $14k check to pay it off.
Knock on wood, my 2012 Ram 2500 and my 2016 Ram 3500 were great trucks. Sure, 3rd brake light leaks, rear vents leaked, and I too had an issue with the ABS on the 2012 once (they found a wiring issue and repaired it) but by and large we've had less problems with these than any other vehicle I've owned. My current 2018 1500 has been good so far. Time will tell if this continues.
It's a roll of the dice nowadays. It's our fault too. We expect more and more "creature features" in these trucks, which lead to additional mechanical and electrical requirements. If everyone were still happy with cloth seats, manual windows, manual transmissions, less emissions laws, etc... we'd likely still have the old school work horses that would run a half million miles with very little repair.
Couple that with a lack of knowledgeable techs that want to work in shops and a lack of workers in the factories (who are all trying to play catch up and crank out supply as fast as possible now due to backorders) and we have the perfect storm. Factories are likely skipping QA check steps just to try and catch up to the demand. We as the consumer pay for it.
The thing that I've learned is just to be patient and persistent. I've given up on switching brands when I knee jerk over a problem. Better to live with the devil you know than the one you don't. I know where the potential problems may be with a vehicle and prepare myself with the knowledge of how to fix it myself if I have to. Just my .02. Hang in there!